Suddenly,in the past few years not too sure if itz jst bcos of TV or our gradual exposure to western culture or bcos of both.We began to express our love & affection by hugs & kisses.By 'we' i meant me & my sibling,friends,colleagues & cousins.And 'we' also gradually began to extend our spontaneous love & affection towards the elders at home, the same way.For example,one fine morning when i just dropped home after a gap of 2 full months,for the first time i hugged mommy to express my deep affection.She was equally or perhaps much more affectionate than me but my hug was not reciprocated with the same passion since her mind instantaneously rejected an alien way of expressing affection.And a kiss on her cheek during my departure was also not received well for the same reason.
But 'we' just like that are able to glue and unglue ourselves be it a hug or a kiss sometimes irrespective of our gender difference(not in all case, i must mention).The only true thing that exist in the mind during those few seconds of gluing are that virgin love& affection and probably what's the best way to express it.Am glad that elders are growing up with us,by gradually appreciating positive rituals of love like a hug or a kiss.Now mommy responds better to our hugs and kisses.And you know there is so much happening physically,chemically and psychologically too.You just got to do it to know what am i emphasising on.But again my dad is still out of this ritualistic circuit.I haven't had anything more than a hand shake with him as a mark of expressing my affection.There is something that blocks me from explaining these wonderful concepts of love rituals to him.But with people of our age,itz almost instantaneous.Just wondering why am i brewing so much about the rituals of love these days.Allow me to share with you the following extracts which possibly should have triggered me,i guess.
' There are different kinds of kisses,as many as the relationships in which they take place and the people who give them:kissing with a look or kissing at a distance or awakening kisses or magical kisses or spontaneous kisses or virtual kisses or passionate kisses or commitment kisses or faked kisses or ardent kisses ... and so on.The most common hugs are good-bye hugs,arrival hugs,re encounter hugs,affectionate hugs,endless hugs,and friendly hugs.Which hugs and kisses would you like to give or receive?who is the person whom you want to hug and kiss right now ?Do you think you could have ever prevented a separation with a timely hug or a kiss?
The purpose of hugs and kisses is to show deep affection or passion or fellowship or friendship or sexual needs or protection or mercy or consolation or wisdom or power or love.What do we feel when we kiss or hug.Excitement or appreciation or selfesteem or safety or approval or contentment or strength or devotion or spirituality or protection or enthusiasm or happiness.Kissing is psychologically related to the most primitive contact in human beings and reminds us subconsciously of all our oral needs such as the need for food,its enjoyment,flavor,what has been wishes for,and what has been rejected-everything to survival.
Practise the art of kissing everyday.Prepare a list of all the people whom you would like to hug or kiss,and the reason for it.Then try to understand why you don't do it on a daily basis in each case.Try to do the same thing every day with all the people on your list.Choose the most appropriate kiss or hug depending on the relationship and degree of closeness.And if you do the above everyday,you will be able to see how the energy of your love can do miracles in your relationships.Now you only have to wait, because hugs and kisses will come to you.'
If you have read till here,this is what i have to say.Mmm ... what an interesting exercise?If you succeed in doing it everyday as suggested above,and if hugs and kisses come your way ,you can bother to tell me also.Am jst waiting to know how foolproof is the exercise.
